Pearls of Wisdom - Patterns

Ok, so I have some friends that I IM with and usually get a return message at 5 minute intervals.  Some friends will say good night and talk for another 10 minutes while others will flash a BBL (be back later) and log off with no notice at all.  Wow...I even have a very dear friend that will often not reply at all. (He's a chronic AKF'r.)  Now... when i first got here I may have read into this behavior more, maybe even taken it personally.

This recently happened to me when a new friend TP'd me to his location where he and his friends were in the middle of an inane conversation.  Don't get me wrong, I've had plenty of conversations like that, BUT... it was...ummmm... uncomfortable.  This new friend maybe said two words to me...it was so odd.  I started to take the whole scene the wrong way and that's my A-HA! moment.  I didn't know him well enough to know his "pattern."  I have since found out that is the way he operates and now that I know that I can conduct my mind accordingly.  And...have a new good friend!! Heeeeee!!

So the next time a person gets upset because their new friend doesn't reply quickly, or poofs with no notice, just remind that person that they have to know a persons pattern first before they pass judgment.  I think...in my very humble opinion...that keeping this in mind will avoid unnecessary bad feelings.